Shayna Schmidt | July 30, 2018

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” 

This is one of the most famous quotes by Dr. Wayne Dyer, renowned self-development author and speaker. Let's chat a bit more about what it all means.

In life, what we look at is not nearly as important as HOW we look at it. Our perception of the world is what creates our life experience. Two people may watch the exact same event happen, but may tell completely different versions of the story when recounting it. We cannot help but be informed by our own experiences, perceptions, narratives, realities. Behind every human being is a story, a rich personal history that is filled with the tales of our experiences in life, both good and bad. Such experiences and their memories create our perception: our unique view of the world around us. 

So why is this worth exploring?

It is our nature as humans to seek out "truth," and personal truth is a large part of that journey. Personal truth is, among other things, to have a deep and honest knowledge of one’s perception of life and therefore one’s ‘self.'

When we set this quest for truth as our intention, we are opening ourselves up to finding a new awareness of what IS, rather than what we previously believed (whether due to a narrative we learned or started to tell ourselves, etc.). Only then can we allow the stories filled with judgement and bias that we have manufactured within us to dissolve. This is a life-long process, but it is empowering to know and understand that almost anything in life can be adjusted with a change of perception.

Here are some activities you can do if you find yourself wanting to shift the way you’re perceiving a given situation:

  1. Decide that you are in the driver’s seat of your life.
  2. Set realistic goals for yourself that light you up. 
  3. Make “I can” a bigger part of your vocabulary. Correct yourself when you hear yourself say “I can’t.”
  4. Visualize your dream life and write it down. Get specific. Record every detail. Your imagination is powerful and using it is not a waste of time.
  5. Focus on the positive. It sounds so trite but it can really make a difference. If you’re having a bad day, what if you focus on just one good thing? Can you be grateful for that delicious and comforting cup of coffee, or the nice woman who held the door for you, or the sweet baby you saw on the train? Can you find the good all around you and put that in the forefront of your mind?
  6. In a similar vein to #5, start acknowledging the qualities you love about yourself. If you've been in the self-hate spiral for a while, find even the smallest qualities. Embrace the good hair day. Love on your straight teeth. Applaud yourself for the graceful way you mediated that awkward conflict at work. Compliment yourself for how thoughtful you were for your friend’s birthday.

Your perception is your reality; there is no question about that. Reality and thoughts change and flicker constantly. Everyone has bad days, but if you’re in a cycle of heavy burden, do everything that you can to lift that. Ultimtealy, remember that it takes just as much effort to focus on a positive thought as it does to focus on a negative one. Visualizing your ideal day and your ideal life takes a few mere minutes a few times a day. Practicing gratitude for the good you have in your life only makes you feel better and opens the channel for more good to enter. The magic is the combination of faith that the good things are on their way, plus the gratitude for the good things that are on their way, even though you may not have seen them yet. Once you get the ball rolling, it picks up speed very quickly.

We know this work isn't easy. But it's so worth putting in the effort! Chat with your Livekick trainer today, or sign up with one, if you have questions. We're all on this journey of self-development together to live our happiest, healthiest, fullest lives.